Here is just a sample of some of my recent photo project, CONsent, which you can read about here.
Please read and spread the word around. I got to work with some great cosplayers, photographers and fans and I really hope to continue this project if it gains enough support.
Thank you for looking!
I just want to say that as a cosplayer at cons, this is a real issue. The amount of things that get said (and mostly REQUESTED) to us is ridiculous. This deserves a signal boost.
On Facebook a couple days ago BelleChere posted basically asking people to not proposition her. Throughout the comments she noted she was married and neither one of them appreciated creepy comments made toward her. A number of people proceeded to argue with her saying that because she dressed up, it was okay.
I know a ton of people who have dealt with harassment at cons and they feel like they can’t say anything because it’s a convention. WRONG. You deserve to feel safe no matter where you are. Dressing up is not giving someone permission to say something to you or do anything to you.
This is a great project and it gets a boost from me.
Okay yes sorry (not sorry) about spamming this but it was the single-greatest photo-op all weekend. The Metavengers and the Extravengers have some strong opinions about this topic.
Read the article here.
View the album (and the ‘caught creep!’ album) here.
So glad this project is happening. This is a real problem in the community for men and women alike. My husband is a cosplayer and he’s had people harass him. While dressed as Sephiroth a “fan” said “I love you so much, I have pictures of you all over my wall” and while cosplaying Axel from kingdom hearts someone unzipped his coat, reached under it and felt his bare chest to verify he was a guy. (If he had been a girl this would have been groping and either way it’s no ok to touch someone like that without their consent). More than one of my female friends has been “propositioned” by someone who insinuated they were a prostitute. One case involved a man pulling over and putting a fifty dollar bill on the passenger seat - so creepy! Another friend had a guy take a picture of her butt when she was walking away.
Honestly, part of the reason I prefer to crossplay is because of the “invisibility factor”, I find I get less looks and fear harassment less if people take me for a young man. Although that’s no guarantee. Some people only see the character “they love” and want to cast the cosplayer in the role of their fantasy love interest.
1 - I Am NOT my character/your toy
2 - It is never ok to treat someone as a sexual object without their CONSENT
3 - I Am a person and should be treated with basic respect
Cosplay is different for everyone. Some do it for the costume/craft, some love a character’s looks, others for love of a character’s personality, or maybe a combination of the all of the above. Personally, all of the characters I do are characters I love and who I can relate to on some level. They reflect an aspect of my personality or something I’d like to be.
However, I am NOT my character. I’m me, as a person, with my own flaws and virtues. It can be very frustrating when someone wants to get close to you because they like the character you cosplay rather than liking you, because at the end of the day you take the costume off and hope your friends or people who are interested in you romantically like you for ‘you’ and not your clothes.
Since I’m not the character, that also means that this con isn’t your self insert fanfic fantasy come to life. I’m not going to be “Your Insert Character Here”.
It’s ok to find someone’s cosplay attractive. I’m attracted to a lot of fictional characters. I once kissed a girl at a con because she looked really sexy as Sebastian, and we later became lovers. However, I didn’t sleep with her because she “was” Sebastian I slept with her because I liked her as a person and she liked me back. What I’m saying is, it’s ok to “like” a cosplayer, but keep in mind they’re a person.
That also means that as a person, they might not like you just because you’re cosplaying a character their character likes or they might have a real life relationship you should respect. I’ve had a lot of girls hang all over my husband during pictures, some shoving me out of the way or giving me dirty looks for standing close to him.
Ok: I get you like the character, but a cosplayer isn’t “yours”.
The only time a cosplayer is yours is if they agree to be “yours”. My husband is my Axel, my Tseng, etc because we agreed to cosplay together and we’re IRL romantically together. I’ll sometimes refer to my friends as “my X” to designate a person who has agreed to cosplay with me as part of a group, i.e. the people in my Turk group are my Turks. I am JouninK’s Roxas because I will work with her as Roxas. However, although I may be a bit bossy/pushy in my leadship capacity (that’s my personality), I ever forget that these people are my friends/colleagues. I respect them as people. (I respect the fuck out of them as people). I love some of them as friends, my Reno is my brother in all but blood and I’m so grateful to know all of them. Cosplay has allowed me to work with a lot of wonderful people on a lot of great projects.
I would NEVER act like I “own” them or am entitled to anything from them. I don’t have exclusive rights to them. If they agree to do something, I’ll hold them to their commitments, just as hold myself to my own obligations, because they agreed, not because I think I have special rights to them.
People are not objects, you can’t own them, so don’t act like anyone has to do anything for you unless they’ve agreed. A cosplayer may be dressed up like a character, but we aren’t toys, so please don’t treat us like a life size PlayArts figure.
I’m aware that cosplay can be sexy, and I’m not against “objectification” per se, i.e. buying or selling pin ups of cosplayers, looking at sexy cosplayers, events like host/hostess clubs that encourage catering to the fantasies of the attendees. I run an 18 + Cosplay Panel and we specialize in fan service.
Here’s the difference, in the case of those panels, we consent. We put ourselves out there and invite you to look, to ask for fan service, to buy a pin up, etc. We are agreeing to entertain you within the limits that we agree to and that’s fine.
If you sexually harass a cosplayer, that’s not ok because they did not agree to that. You using them as an object for your sexual pleasure without their consent.
Sexual anything without CONSENT is WRONG. It’s dehumanizing, it’s threatening, it’s hurtful,it’s disrespectful and you should not do it.
So if you really like the character Reno and want sleep with a Reno cosplayer because you like Reno, that’s fine. If you meet a Reno cosplayer and he wants to sleep with you because you’re up for it and have nice tits, also fine. It’s ok to be sexual and I’m not going to pass judgement on anyone’s reasons for having sex. I’m sure a lot of people’s reason is “We met in a bar and were willing”. Just please practice safe sex.
However, you are not entitled to sex from anyone. So if you “ship” yourself with a fictional character or “ship” the character you cosplay with the character they “cosplay” that’s fine, but don’t expect them to play out your fantasy with you. We’re cosplayers, not sex workers, and unless it’s a fan service panel or it’s otherwise agreed to things, Do NOT assume consent.
It’s ok to ask for pictures. (Please ask first).It’s even ok to ask for fan service ones within reason. (i.e. Hey, I ship the characters we cosplay together, would you be comfortable doing a couple-pose with me?) People will say yes or no depending on their comfort level. The important thing is to respect their comfort level, yes means yes. If they aren’t comfortable, don’t push. And please don’t use posing for a picture as an excuse to get closer to someone than they’d generally allow. Remember consent means saying yes to a honest proposal, not being manipulated into kissing or touching under the pretext of a picture.
People assume that if you’re wearing a costume you’re here for their entertainment. To some extent it’s true that we’re putting ourselves out there to be viewed and appreciated, some of may do “sexy” things, but that doesn’t mean it’s ok to treat us like “objects”. We aren’t show girls paid to entertain you, and unless we’re willing participating in a host/hostess club or fan service panel we aren’t hear to bring your fantasy to life or please you.
Using someone against their will for anything is wrong, and that includes using cosplayers for anything they haven’t agreed to do.
Shadowhunter Runes cr: Valerie Friere
See this shit? This shit is about to change your life.
This packet of stuff is called Instamorph Moldable Plastic. You literally buy a packet of this shit, and you can make any-fucking-thing.
You open it up, and you get little plastic pellets that look like this.
Doesn’t look like much, right?
When put in hot water (140°F, 60°C.), these pellets melt into a kind of putty-like stuff, that you can mold into whatever shape you want.
They make the coolest cosplay accessories EVER because they’re plastic - they’re moderately lightweight, they’ll survive being dropped and banged around, and they’re waterproof. I made Nepeta horns and Meenah bracelets for my homestuck cosplays, but it can do a ton of other stuff too.
Also, the whole project takes maybe a half hour - 10 minutes to boil the water, 2 for the pellets to melt in the bowl (it leaves no residue, so you can use a regular mixing bowl and a spoon to pull it out of the water), a few minutes to sculpt and then a few minutes for it to dry into a completely solid, plastic whatever-you’re-making.
AND THE BEST PART OF THIS IS THAT THIS SHIT IS SO CHEAP
YOU’D EXPECT IT TO BE REALLY EXPENSIVE BUT IT’S NOT
I got a container on Amazon.com for $10, but here’s the actual site so you can check it out some more. http://www.instamorph.com/SERIOUSLY THOUGH DON’T GO TO ALL THE TROUBLE OF FINDING CREATIVE AND EFFECTIVE WAYS TO MIX MATERIALS, THIS IS REALLY GREAT.
This is the most beautiful thing!
We should get it asap. And just make EVERYTHING!
Everyone else go home.
this guy. :p
he was perfect
he is the best disney princess
i adored how he hit on everything that moved
Best cosplay and best princess.
WAIT. I know this kid. Like, IRL. O.O I think the internet just broke, this has never happened before.
Glue Chart by Unknown (if you made this, let us know!)
Just a simple, but terribly useful, tutorial this Thursday. Over the years, I have amassed so many different types of glue, solely to use on costumes and props. However, most of the time, I just keep trying different glues until I find one that works. But with this handy dandy little chart, I don’t have to guess any more! No more reading labels of 10 different kinds of glue, no more fingers stuck instead of objects, no more pray that your prop won’t fall apart because you used the wrong glue.
Excellent resource! :3
Tutorial - Wands
This. This is epic.
reblogging for so i can’t lose this because oh my god jenn can we
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I’m looking forword to Leipzig book fair (read: start of the con-season) and especially to find all the Cosplays of BBC Shows. I really can’t wait for it.
Unfortunately I’m banned from making a weeping angel costume due to new cosplay rules, but I’m still looking forward. <3